Visit our web site for material on abuse at chinnandassociates.com. We often recommend the book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship, by Patricia Evans (2010, Adams Media). This book helps clients identify the abuse they are suffering and educates them on how to step out of the cycle. A friend recently told me about another helpful book called, The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It, by Leslie Vernick, (2007, Harvest House). In Chapter 1 she defines the emotionally destructive relationship. Importantly, she shows how destruction in relationships can be much more subtle and not always malicious as we often imagine abuse to be.
Education about abuse is important not just to determine to get out of a relationship, but also to possibly help people identify ways to step out of the cycle and save a marriage.